Marriage is all about choices..
Let me explain, my husband and I have been spending less time together because of his work schedule and since kids are out of school, I’m the primary caretaker. So life can sometimes be a struggle for us, for example, I would like to spend more time outside of “work mode” but I try my best not to nag him about it because the business is a priority for both us.
So when we do spend time together I try to make it of quality vs quantity. That’s sometimes hard to do because, as any other couple, we have disagreements.
That’s where choices come in, I can try and argue my point or I can let it go and enjoy the moment. This used to be hard for me, I HAD to win an argument. Now, I just let it go. I’am human and sometimes will snap at him but I will quickly realize my tone of voice and apologize and let it go.
Yes, ladies, I will apologize even if I’m not in the wrong!!! WHY WOULD I DO THAT, RIGHT? Well, at the end of the day I want him to enjoy his downtime. He has to deal with so much at work, I don’t want him distracted with our fights. Don’t get confused, I do pick my battles! Marriage, like life is all about choices.
As I write this, I’m drinking a glass of Stella Rose while he watches Casino for the 100th time. I would like to go to furniture shopping but I know he hates it and I know I’ll be annoyed at his attitude, so I rather go by myself and enjoy this moment with him. He does it for me too, he’s not much of a reader so when we go to Barnes and Nobles and stay there for a few hours, I know his smile is forced but I appreciate him just being there.